15 Rules to help you succeed at whatever you
wish
Rule 1
Ask for what you want.
How does the world know what to
give you unless you put it out there? Ask for what you want and need. Let the
world know what you want from it and look for it in return.
Rule 2
Be the
person you want to be.
It's call modeling. If you act like it, people will
believe it! . Assume the role you want others to see you in. Sell it from the
inside out.
Rule 3
Believe in yourself.
If you don't, no one will.
People will follow; you just need to lead them. Forget worrying; concentrate on
making things happen. Action and momentum are infectious.
Rule 4
Make a
plan.
No one goes anywhere without a destination. Know your destination, and
plot your journey. Take whatever pleasures you need on the way, but know that
you are moving forward and will arrive at your destination.
Rule 5
Nervous - excited.
Realize that being nervous is the same as being excited. Instead
of dreading it, welcome the surge of positive energy. Own it, and use it. It's
infectious in a good way!
Rule 6
Thinking about your failure brings your
failure.
Concentrate on your success and watch it happen. Your mind will
move in whatever direction you point it in. Make sure it's pointed toward where
you want to go and not where you don't!
Rule 7
Feel whatever way you
choose.
You control your feelings. You allow yourself to be upset, annoyed or
frustrated. Only you control your feelings and no one else. Take back the power
you give others and choose to feel strong, clear-minded and in control.
Rule 8
Communicate.
Listening and being understood are the keys to
communication. People want to talk about themselves and they want to hear
interesting things about you. No one wants to hear a sermon or hear a rant about
your latest victory or great audition. Listen, observe and speak about mutually
interesting subjects. Otherwise, you're a bore.
Rule 9
Freak out.
Bad
audition, interview or meeting? Take ten minutes to beat yourself up. Blame
yourself, be annoyed and frustrated. Then, learn your lesson and move on. Now
that all your anger is gone, put your energy into the lessons learned and move
forward once again.
Rule 10
Speak your mind, NOW.
People swallow their
feelings and anger, they postpone what they really want to say, thinking, "I'll
just wait till a good time." DON'T! Handle the situation now, before the
situation changes. Have a problem? Be a diplomat and talk about it. Handling a
minor situation now will prevent it from becoming a festering chasm of
misunderstanding and resentment later.
Rule 11
Dive in.
Someone make
you feel inadequate? A situation makes you feel uneasy? In a room with a big
shot and feeling small? Don't overcompensate, navigate or fake your way through
it, because you can't. Dive in and address the problem. Address your feelings
and say, "I've got to be honest, I'm a big fan and I'm feeling a little
intimidated right now." As soon as you own up to your feelings and the playing
field is understood, you're both able to move ahead. Everyone wants to deal with
someone who's truthful and honest, and not afraid to address their own
insecurities.
Tip 12
Exploit yourself.
Find out what makes you
different and exploit it. Each of you has a quality that makes you unique.
Instead of trying to be what others are, exploit your uniqueness. It's the one
"ace" you have that no one else possesses.
Rule 13
Don't accept the
unacceptable.
Train people to treat you as you want to be treated. Being late
is not acceptable, not returning calls is not acceptable and them not doing
their job is not acceptable. Don't accept these behaviors from people.
Rule 14
Walk a mile in someone else's shoes.
Be someone else. Changing
perspective is an amazing tip to see the world from another point of view.
Assume a character and role and act it out for one day, then go out in the world
as if it's all new to you. You'll be amazed at the new perspective you
gain.
Rule 15
Say thank you.
Send an email from Hallmark, a card or a
simple phone call. Don't underestimate the value of someone feeling appreciated
and recognized for their efforts. It leaves a lasting impression when someone
thanks you for meeting or helping them.
