CHART OF 13 VIRTUES

 

BENJAMIN FRANKLIN'S CHART OF 13 VIRTUES

 

VIRTUES TO LIVE BY.....

 

10 VIRTUES

 

PARAMIS ( VIRTUES )

 

9 NOBLE VIRTUES

 

16 பேறுகள்

1.கல்வி

2.புகழ்

3.வலி

4.வெற்றி

5.நன் மக்கள்

6.பொன்

7.நெல்

8.நல்லூழ்

9.நுகர்ச்சி

10.அறிவு

11.அழகு

12.பொறுமை

13.இளமை

14.துணிவு

15.நோயின்மை

16.வாழ்நாள்

கலையாத கல்வியும் குறையாத வயதுமோர்
கபடு வாராத நட்பும்
கன்றாத வளமையுங் குன்றாத இ­ளமையும்
கழுபிணியிலாத உடலும்
சலியாத மனமும் அன்பு அகலாத மனைவியும்
தவறாத சந்தானமும்
தாழாத கீர்த்தியும் மாறாத வார்த்தையும்
தடைகள் வாராத கொடையும்
தொலையாத நிதியமும் கோணாத கோலும் ஒரு
துன்பமில்லாத வாழ்வும்
துய்ய நின் பாதத்தில் அன்பும் உதவி பெரிய
தொண்டரொடு கூட்டு கண்டாய்
அலையாழி அறிதுயிலு மாயனது தங்கையே!
ஆதிகட வூரின் வாழ்வே!
அலையாழி அறிதுயிலு மாயனது தங்கையே!
ஆதிகட வூரின் வாழ்வே!
அமுதீசர் ஒருபாகம் அகலாத சுகபாணி!
அருள்வாமி! அபிராமியே!
அமுதீசர் ஒருபாகம் அகலாத சுகபாணி!
அருள்வாமி! அபிராமியே! 

HUMBLENESS...1

When I started loving myself”

- A poem by Charlie Chaplin 

written on his 70th birthday on April 16, 1959:

When I started loving myself

I understood that I’m always and at any given opportunity

in the right place at the right time.

And I understood that all that happens is right –

from then on I could be calm.

Today I know: It’s called TRUST.

When I started to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody

When I tried to force my desires on this person,

even though I knew the time is not right and the person was not ready for it,

and even though this person was me.

Today I know: It’s called LETTING GO

When I started loving myself

I could recognize that emotional pain and grief

are just warnings for me to not live against my own truth.

Today I know: It’s called AUTHENTICALLY BEING.

When I started loving myself

I stopped longing for another life

and could see that everything around me was a request to grow.

Today I know: It’s called MATURITY.

When I started loving myself

I stopped depriving myself of my free time

and stopped sketching further magnificent projects for the future.

Today I only do what’s fun and joy for me,

what I love and what makes my heart laugh,

in my own way and in my tempo.

Today I know: it’s called HONESTY.

When I started loving myself

I escaped from all what wasn’t healthy for me,

from dishes, people, things, situations

and from everyhting pulling me down and away from myself.

In the beginning I called it the “healthy egoism”,

but today I know: it’s called SELF-LOVE.

When I started loving myself

I stopped wanting to be always right

thus I’ve been less wrong.

Today I’ve recognized: it’s called HUMBLENESS.

When I started loving myself

I refused to live further in the past

and worry about my future.

Now I live only at this moment where EVERYTHING takes place,

like this I live every day and I call it CONSCIOUSNESS.

When I started loving myself

I recognized, that my thinking

can make me miserable and sick.

When I requested for my heart forces,

my mind got an important partner.

Today I call this connection HEART WISDOM.

We do not need to fear further discussions,

conflicts and problems with ourselves and others

since even stars sometimes bang on each other

and create new worlds.

Today I know: THIS IS LIFE!

VIRTUES

DESTINY....1

LIFE RACE

I was jogging one day and I noticed a person in front of me. I could tell he was running a little slower than me and I thought, good, I shall try to catch up to him. So I started running faster and faster. Every block, I was gaining on him just a little bit. After just a few minutes I was only about 100 yards behind him, so I really picked up the pace and push myself. You would have thought I was running in the last leg of the London Olympics competition. I was determined to catch him.

Finally, I did it! I caught and passed him by. On the inside I felt so good - "I beat him". Of course, he didn't even know we were racing. After I passed him, I realized I had been so focused on competing against him

that I had missed my turn. I had gone nearly six blocks past it. I had to turn around and go all back.

Isn't that what happens in life when we focus on competing with co-workers, neighbors, friends, family,trying to outdo them or trying to prove that we are more successful or more important?

We spend our time and energy running after them and we miss out on our own paths to our God given destinies. The problem with unhealthy competition is that its a never ending cycle.

There will always be somebody ahead of you, someone with better job, nicer car, more money in the bank, more education, a prettier wife, a more handsome husband, better behaved children, etc. But realize that "You can be the best that you can be, you are not competing with any one." Some people are insecure because they pay too much attention to what others are doing, where others are going, wearing, or driving.

We should take what God has given us, the height, weight, personality. Dress well and wear it proudly!

We will be blessed by it.

We must stay focused and live a healthy life.

There's no competition in DESTINY, we must run our own RACE and wish others WELL!

- author unknown

அறம் செய விரும்பு ....1

தீபாவளி அன்றும், நேற்றும் எனக்கு நிறைய பேர்கள் போன் செய்து " அங்கிள்... உங்களையும், ஆண்ட்டியையும் சிவகுமார்
பேசிய அறம்  செய விரும்பு நிகழ்ச்சியில் பார்த்தேன். " என மகிழ்ச்சியைத் தெரிவித்தார்கள்.

ஓர் அரை செகண்ட் திரையில் வந்ததிற்கே
இத்தனை பேர் பார்த்து போன் செய்கிறார்களே  என்பதை நினைக்கும்போது TV, சினிமா இவற்றின் தாக்கம் மக்களிடம்  இருப்பதையும், TVயில் வருபவர்களின் popularity பற்றியும்  நன்கு உணர முடிந்தது.

உலக சமுதாய சேவா சங்கத் தலைவர் திரு SKM மயிலானந்தன் அவர்களுக்கு மே மாதம் நடைபெற்ற பாராட்டு விழாவில் நடிகர் சிவகுமார் ஒன்றரை மணி நேரம் பேசியதை  அழகாகத் தொகுத்து தீபாவளியன்று Vijay TVயில் வழங்கியிருந்தார்கள். நிகழ்ச்சியைப் பார்த்தவர்களுக்கு அது ஒரு மனவளக்கலை பாடமாக அமைந்து  உபயோகமாக இருந்தது. இதை sponsor செய்த நண்பர் ராம்ராஜ் காட்டன் MD திரு K R நாகராஜ் அவர்களுக்கு மிக்க நன்றி.

போன் செய்த ஒருவர் என்னிடம் கேட்டார் - " சிவகுமார் பேசியது மிக சிறப்பாக இருந்தது. எங்கள் குழந்தைகளுக்கு மிகவும் பயனுள்ள பேச்சு. ஆனால் அறம் என்ற வார்த்தைக்கு அவர் விளக்கம் சொல்லவில்லையே! நீங்களாவது சொல்லுங்கள்."

நான் அவருக்கு அறம் பற்றி சுருக்கமாக சிலவற்றைச் சொன்னேன். அதை அடுத்த போஸ்டில் சொல்கிறேன்.



மே மாதம் நடைபெற்ற பாராட்டு விழா பற்றி எழுதியதைப் படிக்க இங்கே சொடுக்கவும்.

COURAGE...10

Courage is the ability to face danger, difficulty, uncertainty or pain without being paralyzed by fear.

If you're experiencing problems with getting results in regards to your money, family, agreements or questions --- stand up and speak up.

If you need help --- stand up and speak up.

If you see injustice or a need --- stand up and speak up.

If some one is taking your kindness for weakness --- stand up and speak up.

If you're feeling pressured to do something against your values or time constraints --- stand up and speak up.

If you are not clear and feeling anxious about what others are asking or expecting from you --- stand up and speak up.

If you want to turn your life  around in a positive direction --- stand up and speak up.

If someone is taking advantage of your time, money, body, trust, love or friendship --- stand up and speak up.

If there is something in life you want to accomplish --- stand up and speak up.

COURAGE...9

Your Dimension Of Greatness 

No one can know the potential, Of a life that is committed to win;

With courage - the challenge it faces, To achieve great success in the end!

So, explore the Dimension of Greatness, and believe that the world CAN be won;

By a mind that is fully committed, KNOWING the task can be done!

Your world has no place for the sceptic, No room for the DOUBTER to stand;

To weaken your firm resolution That you CAN EXCEL in this land!

We must have VISION TO SEE our potential, And FAITH TO BELIEVE that we can;

Then COURAGE TO ACT with conviction, To become what GOD MEANT us to be!

So, possess the strength and the courage, To conquer WHATEVER you choose.

COURAGE...8

YOU'RE NOT ALONE

"The commonest and subtlest of all human diseases," a prominent physician said, "is fear."

Fear is an incapacitating, paralyzing disease. We all fear at times, but many carry with them unnecessary and destructive fears.

We're afraid of the unknown.

We're afraid of old age; afraid of growing senile and dependent.

We're afraid of change; afraid to plunge into that new relationship, job or way of life.

We're afraid of the future.

We're afraid to risk; afraid to fail or appear as if we failed.

We're afraid to love; afraid to trust.

We're afraid of closeness; afraid we might get hurt.

We're afraid to die. Like Henry Van Dyke said, "Some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live."

Fear is the most devastating enemy of human personality.

But here's the good news: unnecessary fears can be conquered!

Courage to meet fear head-on is actually at our fingertips.

An American slavery abolitionist, Wendell Phillips, made an interesting observation. He noted that it is easy to be brave when all are behind you and agree with you. But the difficulty comes when 99 percent of your friends think you are wrong. Then it is the brave soul who stands up - one among 1,000 - remembering that one with God makes a majority!

You see, courage often comes from simply knowing you are not alone.

COURAGE...7

Courageous leaders for courageous followers 

1. Courageous people are those who have won the battle over their inner lives.

2. Courageous leaders don't run away from problems.

3. Courageous leaders make their followers also courageous.

4. Courageous leaders inspire commitment in others.

5. Courageous leaders are free and they find opportunities to 
grow everywhere.

6. Courageous leaders are honourable.

7. Courage empowers the leader to do greater wonders.

8. Courage makes us more courageous.

9. Courage doesn't consist in doing great things that normally people are afraid of doing.

COURAGE...6

You Can Be Whatever You Want To Be! 

- Donna Levine

There is inside you

All of the potential

To be whatever you want to be; 

All of the energy

To do whatever you want to do. 

Imagine yourself as you would like to be, 

Doing what you want to do, 

And each day, take one step

Towards your dream. 

And though at times it may seem too

difficult to continue, 

Hold on to your dream. 

One morning you will awake to find

That you are the person you dreamed of, 

Doing what you wanted to do, 

Simply because you had the courage

To believe in your potential

And to hold on to your dream.

The poem above rightly speaks about your hidden potentials which you can unveil to chase your dreams and ambitions. But for doing so, you need to take a step forward, build up your courage to connect with your mind, body and soul swiftly.

COURAGE...5

Have the courage to make mistakes, for they can teach you like nothing else can.

Have the courage to take action. For even though your actions carry the possibility of failure, if you never act then you are certain to fail.

Have the courage to live each day fully, with enthusiasm and a generous spirit. Though there are many problems in this world, there are a whole lot more positive possibilities.

Have the courage to do what is right instead of what is easiest or most convenient. It will earn you the respect of others and, even more importantly, the respect of yourself.

Have the courage to see and accept things for what they are. That will put you in position to make a real difference.

Have the courage to love, to speak your mind, to follow your curiosity and your passions. Have the courage to give of yourself, for the goodness you give will come back to you over and over again.

COURAGE....4

10 Ways to Develop Everyday Courage

                          - Katherine Martin

1. Be true to your values and principles

Know who you are below the surface and be true to your authentic self. Don't hold back. Don't compromise what you know is right. Be diligent and disciplined. Even when no one's looking, don't fudge.

2. Stand up for yourself and for others

Speak out. Reach out. Step up. As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world. Be your own best champion. Champion others. Take everyday stands for justice.

3. Make choices, lots of them, and be responsible

Don't wait for someone else to step in. Take charge yourself. Act. Make fundamental choices, be responsible for them, and swear off blame.

4. Harness your fears

Don't be afraid to be afraid. Look at your fear head on, what is it telling you? Where does it come from? What's the worst case? How can you use fear rather than being used by it? Turn it into an ally.

5. Express yourself, give voice to your full-bodied self

Claim your emotions, both "positive" and "negative," without judgment. Use them as fuel.

6. Be willing to change and know what will stop you

Become familiar with your negative ego, your inner critics, the part of you that objects to your becoming more, that will sabotage what you're doing. Where will that lead you? What will you get out of pretending to be small? Go looking for that part of you, so that you can anticipate what might stop you and be proactive.

7. Embrace your imperfections

Mistakes and defeats are bound to happen, and it's okay. Be curious about them, grab hold of them. They present you with wonderful opportunities to learn about yourself. Don't let those opportunities slip by. Don't dilute them with judgments about yourself. Instead, what can you learn?

8. Be nervous

Regularly, do something that makes you nervous, that stretches you into more of who you truly are and can be. Don't wait to be on your A-Game.

9. Pursue deep challenges, be restless

Don't dabble. Too much of life awaits. Engage your life
passionately.

10. Connect with something greater than yourself, the divine

Forge your courage in service.

Make a difference

Make your life matter

Laugh often and have fun

COURAGE....3

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN 

STRENGTH   AND   COURAGE

It takes strength to be firm.

It takes courage to be gentle.

It takes strength to stand guard.

It takes courage to let down your guard.

It takes strength to conquer

It takes courage to surrender.

It takes strength to be certain.

It takes courage to have doubt.

It takes strength to fit in.

It takes courage to stand out.

It takes strength to feel a friend's pain.

It takes courage to feel your own pain.

It takes strength to hide feelings.

It takes courage to show them.

It takes strength to endure abuse.

It takes courage to stop it.

It takes strength to stand alone.

It takes courage to lean on another.

It takes strength to love.

It takes courage to be loved.

It takes strength to survive.

It takes courage to live.

COURAGE...2

IT TAKES COURAGE 

It takes courage

To refrain from gossip

When others delight in it,

To stand up for the absent person

Who is being abused.

It takes courage

To live honestly

Within your means,

And not dishonestly

On the means of others.

It takes courage

To be a REAL man or a TRUE woman,

To hold fast to your ideals

When it causes you

To be looked upon

As strange and peculiar.

It takes courage

To be talked about,

And remain silent,

When a word would justify you

In the eyes of others,

But which you dare not speak

Because it would injure another.

It takes courage

To refuse to do something

That is wrong

Although everyone else

May be doing it

With attitudes as carefree

As a summer song.

It takes courage

To live according

To your own convictions,

To deny yourself

What you cannot afford.

To love your neighbor

As yourself!