BENEFITS OF TALKING LESS

 
People want you to express your opinions on vulnerable issues to quote you later and hide behind your back: ‘He said that.’ If you speak less, people are forced to assume certain things about you that you can deny later. You can change your views at convenience: “exactly, that's what I thought." You can confuse people and not let them judge you. Sometimes taking a clear stand in grey areas makes you vulnerable to embarrassment. It's better to stay silent, and later you can support the winning argument and maintain your intellectual status. But don't do this every time.

1. Staying silent gives an opportunity to think, analyze and react with wisdom. Speaking more sometimes puts you in a fix; you respond to incomplete communication and mess up the situation. A person wanting to appreciate you starts with little criticism. However, you react to criticism and shun that person. Later when you understand their intentions, you feel sad and embarrassed. Sometimes, people use emotional words and trick you into letting out your secrets: “so how was your discussion with X?” “Awesome,” you reply. However, previously, you mentioned that you didn't meet X. It's impossible to take back words. However, it's possible to let them out after thinking.
2. Your words carry much more value if you speak less. Keep swearing day and night; no one will value your words; the one who promises once in a blue moon would be respected. Keep criticizing day and night; people wouldn't bother, and criticism once in a blue moon would be heard and taken care of. You will be heard more and carefully. People who speak a lot end up being ignored or taken casually. Talk less, people wait to listen to you; they eagerly listen to you because it's human tendency to respect what's in shortage.
3. Needing to say more makes you think only about the next words to say, the best words to defend your ego, not to be judged and loved. Your mind loses focus from the matter of importance and stays stressed to get out words after words. Your point of focus here comes down to ego satisfaction and not the subject matter of importance. You hurry, make mistakes, then defend yourself and find better words. This is unnecessary engagement of the mind. Feel calm with silence; you don't need to prove anything. Silence brings inner peace and helps you focus.

- Anubhav Jain