Wednesday 31 July 2013

SELF - CONFIDENCE ..2

Good Things Will Come 

There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren't the way you had hoped they would be.

That's when you have to tell yourself that things will get better. There are times when people disappoint you and let you down.

But those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions, to keep your life focused on believing in yourself.

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life, and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you. It may not be easy at times, but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are.

So when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities, remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be.

Because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

Keep Believing in Yourself

COURAGE...5


Have the courage to make mistakes, for they can teach you like nothing else can.

Have the courage to take action. For even though your actions carry the possibility of failure, if you never act then you are certain to fail.

Have the courage to live each day fully, with enthusiasm and a generous spirit. Though there are many problems in this world, there are a whole lot more positive possibilities.

Have the courage to do what is right instead of what is easiest or most convenient. It will earn you the respect of others and, even more importantly, the respect of yourself.

Have the courage to see and accept things for what they are. That will put you in position to make a real difference.

Have the courage to love, to speak your mind, to follow your curiosity and your passions. Have the courage to give of yourself, for the goodness you give will come back to you over and over again.

Tuesday 30 July 2013

தமிழ் அமுதம் ...1



கேள்வி:

படைப்பது மட்டுமே என் வேலை; பதில் சொல்வதல்ல என்கிறார்களே சில எழுத்தாளர்கள்...?

வைரமுத்துவின் பதில்:

சோழமன்னனின் தமிழ் அவை. நளவெண்பாவை அரங்கேற்றுகிறான் புலவன் புகழேந்தி. தளைதட்டாத வெண்பாச்சுவையில் தரைசுற்றிக் கிடக்கிறது தமிழ்க் கூட்டம்.

மாலைப்பொழுதின் மனோகரம் சொல்லவந்த புலவன் _‘‘மல்லிகையே வெண்சங்கா வண்டூத’’ என்கிறான். அதாவது _ மல்லிகைப்பூக்களில் தேன் குடிக்கும் வண்டினங்களைப் படிமப்படுத்தியவன் ‘மல்லிகைப் பூக்களைச் சங்குகளாக்கி வண்டுகள் ஊதி ஒலிசெய்யும் பொழுது’ என்கிறான்.

‘நிறுத்து’ என்கிறான் ஒட்டக்கூத்தன்.

‘‘சங்கூதுகிறவன் சங்கின் பின்புறமிருந்து ஊதுவதே மரபு. மல்லிகைப்பூக்களின் மேற்புறம் தேன் குடிக்கும் வண்டுகள் சங்கூதுவதாய்ச் சொல்வது காட்சிப்பிழை; இது வெண்பா அல்ல; வெறும்பா.’’

ஒரு ஞான நிசப்தம் நுரைகட்டி நிற்கிறது சபையில்.

புகழேந்தி பதிலிறுக்கிறார்:

‘‘ஒட்டக்கூத்தரே உட்காருமய்யா! கள் குடிப்பவனுக்குத் தலை எது கால் எது என்று தெரியாதய்யா.’’

படைப்பது மட்டுமன்று; பதில் சொல்லும் பொறுப்பும் உண்டு படைப்பாளிக்கு.


( குமுதத்தில் வந்த வைரமுத்துவின் பதில்கள் பகுதியிலிருந்து )

COURAGE....4


10 Ways to Develop Everyday Courage

                          - Katherine Martin

1. Be true to your values and principles

Know who you are below the surface and be true to your authentic self. Don't hold back. Don't compromise what you know is right. Be diligent and disciplined. Even when no one's looking, don't fudge.

2. Stand up for yourself and for others

Speak out. Reach out. Step up. As Gandhi said, be the change you wish to see in the world. Be your own best champion. Champion others. Take everyday stands for justice.

3. Make choices, lots of them, and be responsible

Don't wait for someone else to step in. Take charge yourself. Act. Make fundamental choices, be responsible for them, and swear off blame.

4. Harness your fears

Don't be afraid to be afraid. Look at your fear head on, what is it telling you? Where does it come from? What's the worst case? How can you use fear rather than being used by it? Turn it into an ally.

5. Express yourself, give voice to your full-bodied self

Claim your emotions, both "positive" and "negative," without judgment. Use them as fuel.

6. Be willing to change and know what will stop you

Become familiar with your negative ego, your inner critics, the part of you that objects to your becoming more, that will sabotage what you're doing. Where will that lead you? What will you get out of pretending to be small? Go looking for that part of you, so that you can anticipate what might stop you and be proactive.

7. Embrace your imperfections

Mistakes and defeats are bound to happen, and it's okay. Be curious about them, grab hold of them. They present you with wonderful opportunities to learn about yourself. Don't let those opportunities slip by. Don't dilute them with judgments about yourself. Instead, what can you learn?

8. Be nervous

Regularly, do something that makes you nervous, that stretches you into more of who you truly are and can be. Don't wait to be on your A-Game.

9. Pursue deep challenges, be restless

Don't dabble. Too much of life awaits. Engage your life
passionately.

10. Connect with something greater than yourself, the divine
Forge your courage in service.



Make a difference
Make your life matter
Laugh often and have fun

Monday 29 July 2013

SELF - CONFIDENCE ..1




How to build Self-Confidence -

"What makes you weep, my friend? In you is all power. Summon up your all-powerful nature mighty one and this whole universe will lie at your feet. It is the Self alone that predominates and not matter."


   - Swami Vivekanananda.

Though the potential strength is hidden within us, we are not able to utilise it. Right attitude, positive thinking, and firm faith alone can help us to manifest this hidden strength within. How do great people achieve success in life? They cultivate certain qualities in order to awaken the hidden confidence within themselves. Why not we also give a try if we wish to be great and successful in life?

The qualities needed to be cultivated to build self-confidence are
1) Conviction
2) Hard Work
3) Will-Power
4) Self-respect
5) Long preparation
6) Communication
7) Commitment
8) Discrimination
9) Definite Goal
10) Love
11) Concentration
12) Strength

POSTER OF THIS WEEK


FUNNY STATEMENTS...

Teeth said to Tongue "If I just press you little hard, you will get cut.
Tongue replied: "If I misuse one word against someone, then all the 32 of you will come out at once"

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Students are more genius than teachers.... ...

Because teachers complete their syllabus in 1 yr & student in just 1 day

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Google maybe the most powerful search engine

but,

it can't search

the chappals u lost at the temple

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Boy: Boys are always more intelligent than girls

Girl: Any proof?

Boy: We always say intelliGENT, have u ever heard telling intelliLADY. .??;-)

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Every person is a FREEDOM FIGHTER..... ...

Immediately after Marriage!!

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An old man's T Shirt Quote

"I am not 60... I am 16 with 44 years of EXPERIENCE"

Think Different, Problems common to all but Attitude makes Difference.

Sunday 28 July 2013

COURAGE....3



THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN 
STRENGTH   AND   COURAGE



It takes strength to be firm.
It takes courage to be gentle.

It takes strength to stand guard.
It takes courage to let down your guard.

It takes strength to conquer
It takes courage to surrender.

It takes strength to be certain.
It takes courage to have doubt.

It takes strength to fit in.
It takes courage to stand out.

It takes strength to feel a friend's pain.
It takes courage to feel your own pain.

It takes strength to hide feelings.
It takes courage to show them.

It takes strength to endure abuse.
It takes courage to stop it.

It takes strength to stand alone.
It takes courage to lean on another.

It takes strength to love.
It takes courage to be loved.

It takes strength to survive.
It takes courage to live.

COURAGE...2


IT TAKES COURAGE 

It takes courage
To refrain from gossip
When others delight in it,
To stand up for the absent person
Who is being abused.

It takes courage
To live honestly
Within your means,
And not dishonestly
On the means of others.

It takes courage
To be a REAL man or a TRUE woman,
To hold fast to your ideals
When it causes you
To be looked upon
As strange and peculiar.

It takes courage
To be talked about,
And remain silent,
When a word would justify you
In the eyes of others,
But which you dare not speak
Because it would injure another.

It takes courage
To refuse to do something
That is wrong
Although everyone else
May be doing it
With attitudes as carefree
As a summer song.

It takes courage
To live according
To your own convictions,
To deny yourself
What you cannot afford.
To love your neighbor
As yourself!

Saturday 27 July 2013

WEEKEND WISDOM


The Best Advice I've Ever Heard   

-  Jon Gordon

Dr. James Gills accomplished the remarkable feat of completing two triathlons back to back. Most of the world, including me, couldn't complete one triathlon, never mind two. Yet, Dr. James Gills, a man in his fifties, was able to complete a double triathlon six times.

When asked how he did it, he gave the best advice I've ever heard.

He said, "I’ve learned to talk to myself instead of listen to myself."

He continued, "If I listen to myself I hear all the reasons why I should give up. I hear that I'm too tired-too old-too weak to make it. But if I talk to myself I can give myself the encouragement and words I need to hear to keep running and finish the race."

It's the same way with life.

Too often we listen to ourselves and hear all the complaints, self-doubt, fear and negativity that lead to unhappiness, failure and unfulfilled goals.

But instead of listening to the negative we can choose to feed ourselves with the positive. We can fuel up with words, thoughts, phrases, scripture and beliefs that give us the strength and power to overcome our challenges and create an extraordinary life, career and team.

Just keep running, stay positive, talk to yourself instead of listen to yourself and make sure you celebrate and raise your hands in the air when you’ve reached your destination! 

ONE LINERS...


  • Regular naps prevent old age especially if you take them while driving
  • Having one child makes you a parent; having two makes you a referee
  • I believe we should all pay our tax with a smile I tried but they wanted cash
  • Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without,,, but whatever you do, you'll regret it later
  • Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate you for hurting me
  • Bad officials are elected by good citizens who do not vote
  • Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired
  • Those who can't laugh at themselves leave the job to others
  • A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person
  • You're getting old when you enjoy remembering things more than doing them
  • Saving is the best thing Especially when your parents have done it for you
  • Wise men talk because they have something to say;fools talk because they have to say something
  • Here are a few great notions in philosophyIf your father is a poor man, it is your fate but, if your fatherinlaw is a poor man, it's your stupidity
  • Since light travels faster than sound, people appear bright until you hear them speak
  • Behind every successful man, there is a woman And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two
  • Every man should marry After all, happiness is not the only thing in life
  • The wise never marry and when they marry they become otherwise
  • Success is a relative term It brings so many relatives
  • "Work fascinates me" I can look at it for hours
  • God made relatives; Thank God we can choose our friends

Friday 26 July 2013

COURAGE.....1


A psychology professor at the University of Miami knew his students expected a terrifyingly long final exam.

To play with their minds a little (what do you expect from a psychology professor?) he only put ONE question on the final exam.

He watched the reactions of the students as they all opened the exams and saw the one question.

Initially they all looked relieved, but as the difficulty of the question began to sink in, those relieved faces sagged to confusion and consternation.

All, that is, except for one student.

He read the question, tapped his pencil into his palm a few times, then jotted something down on the test paper.

He walked up to the professor, handed him the final, and walked out.

The professor blinked in surprise, looked at what the student wrote, and smiled.

The professor wrote "100%" on the top of that student's test.

The question:
What is courage?

The student's answer:


THIS IS!!

BOYS & GIRLS


Funny  Situations....

BOY : I can't leave you ...
GIRL : Do you love me so much??
BOY : It's not that. You're standing on my foot.

BOY : May I hold your hand??
GIRL : No thanks, it isn't heavy.

GIRL : Did you miss me while I was away??
BOY : Were you away??

GIRL : Who was that girl I saw you kissing last night?
BOY : What time was it??

GIRL : Say you love me! Say you love me!
BOY : You love me ...

GIRL : If we become engaged will you give me a ring??
BOY : Sure, what's your phone number??

GIRL : I think the poorest people are the happiest ...
BOY : Then marry me and we'll be the happiest couple.

GIRL : Do you remember when you proposed to me? I was so
overwhelmed, I couldn't speak for an hour ...
BOY : Yes Darling, that was the happiest hour of my life ...

GIRL : Darling, I want to dance like this forever ...
BOY : Don't you ever want to improve??

BOY : I love you and I could die for you!
GIRL : How soon??

GIRL1: Have you ever had a hot passionate, burning kiss??
GIRL2: I did once. He'd forgotten to take the cigarette out of his mouth

BOY : I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours!
GIRL : I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours!!!

BOY : Hi! Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
GIRL : Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice!!!

BOY : May I have the pleasure of this dance?
GIRL : No, I'd like to have some pleasure too!!!

BOY : Will you come out with me this Saturday?
GIRL : Sorry! I'm having a headache this weekend!!!

BOY : Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out!
GIRL : Okay, get out!!!

BOY : Shall we go and see a film?
GIRL : I've already seen it!!!

BOY : Do you think it was fate which brought us together?
GIRL : Nah, it was plain bad luck

Thursday 25 July 2013

THE OYSTER


The oyster



Author Unknown

There once was an oyster
Whose story I tell,
Who found that some sand 
Had gotten into his shell.
It was only a grain,
But it gave him great pain,
For oysters have feelings 
Although they're so plain.

Now, did he berate 
The harsh workings of fate
That had brought him 
To such a deplorable state?
Did he curse at the government,
Cry for election,
And claim that the sea should
Have given him protection?

"No," he said to himself 
As he lay on a shell,
Since I cannot remove it,
I shall try to improve it.
Now the years have rolled around,
As the years always do,
And he came to his ultimate destiny ...Stew!

And the small grain of sand 
That had bothered him so 
Was a beautiful pearl 
All richly aglow.

Now the tale has a moral:
For isn't it grand 
What an oyster can do 
With a morsel of sand?

What couldn't we do 
If we'd only begin 
With some of the things 
That get under our skin.

MOTHER....3

A Mother’s Love

A mother’s love is something
That no one can explain,
It is made of deep devotion
And of sacrifice and pain,
It is endless and unselfish
And enduring come what may
For nothing can destroy it
Or take that love away…

It is patient and forgiving
When all others are forsaking.
And it never fails or falters
Even though the heart is breaking…

It believes beyond believing
When the world around condemns,
And it glows with all the beauty
Of the rarest, brightest gems…

It is far beyond defining.
It defies all explanation,
And it still remains a secret
Like the mysteries of Creation…

A many splendored miracle
Man cannot understand
And another wondrous evidence
of God’s tender guiding hand.

Anonymous

Wednesday 24 July 2013

WISDOM OF ....?

 WHO  SAID  THE  FOLLOWING...

When u r in light, everything will follow u. But when u enter dark, even your own shadow will not follow u..that is life


God made relatives. Thank God we can choose our friends


Money glitters, beauty sparkles, and intelligence shines.


Keep a very firm grasp on reality, so you can strangle it at any time.


Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're getting.


People may not always believe what you say, but they will believe what you do.


I've always wanted to be somebody, but I should have been more specific.


You can't have everything - where would you put it?


Laugh and the world ignore you. Crying doesn't help either.


God is not moved or impressed with our worship until our hearts are moved and impressed by Him.


Life is like a mirror, if you frown at it, it frowns back; if you smile, it returns the greeting.


Never trust a person who isn't having at least one crisis.


Goodness is the only investment that never fails.


The only thing lazy people do fast is get tired.


Never deprive someone of hope; it may be all they have.


Silence is the only thing that can't be misquoted!


If we don't control our money, it will control us.


Life Insurance: A contract that keeps you poor all your life so that you can die rich..


Some drink at the fountain of knowledge. Others just gargle.


Everyone has a photographic memory. Some don't have film.


If you r living on the edge, make sure you're wearing your seat belt.


A classic is something that everybody wants to have read and nobody wants to read.


Minds, like parachutes, only function when they are open.


The shortest distance between two points is under construction.


Learn from other people's mistakes, life isn't long enough to make them all yourself.


On the road, never argue with a vehicle heavier than yours.


One thing you can give and still keep is your word.


Life is funny if you don't think about it.


Life is like a grammar lesson. You find the past perfect and the present tense.


There are two kinds of lawyers, those who know the law and those who know the judge.


More doors are opened with 'please' than with keys.


                                 - The above are Golden Words of Hitler

Tuesday 23 July 2013

இரூர் கிராமிய சேவைத் திட்டம் நிறைவு விழா ( 12-7-2013 )

விழா மேடைக்கு வரும் மண்டலத் தலைவி & உலக சமுதாய சேவா சங்கத் தலைவர் 

மண்டலத் தலைவி உரை



தலைவர் உரையாற்றுகின்றார் 

மனவளக்கலையை மக்கள் அனைவருக்கும் கொண்டு சேர்த்த கணேசன் தம்பதி 

கலைநிகழ்ச்சி காணும் இரூர் கிராம மக்கள் 
 நிறைவு விழா

ROSES...7


The rose plant can be compared to life.
Full of thorns?
Roses are divine love.
Its beauty and fragrance are both divine.
Thorns are nothing but ego.
Look, even if one small thorn enters your foot,
It hurts.
Why?
Ego hurts. Love does not.
Ego is not your true nature.
Be a gardener.
Cultivate your very own rose plant with love.
Pour pure water over it for it to grow.
When the roses bloom, offer all of them at My feet.
I will accept all that you give with true love;
It is our love for each other,
That connects you and Me.
Love is not to keep, but to give.
So give, give, give and take back loadfuls.

Monday 22 July 2013

RULES...8


15 Rules to help you succeed at whatever you wish

Rule 1

Ask for what you want.

How does the world know what to give you unless you put it out there? Ask for what you want and need. Let the world know what you want from it and look for it in return.

Rule 2

Be the person you want to be.

It's call modeling. If you act like it, people will believe it! . Assume the role you want others to see you in. Sell it from the inside out.

Rule 3

Believe in yourself.

If you don't, no one will. People will follow; you just need to lead them. Forget worrying; concentrate on making things happen. Action and momentum are infectious.

Rule 4

Make a plan.

No one goes anywhere without a destination. Know your destination, and plot your journey. Take whatever pleasures you need on the way, but know that you are moving forward and will arrive at your destination.

Rule 5

Nervous - excited.

Realize that being nervous is the same as being excited. Instead of dreading it, welcome the surge of positive energy. Own it, and use it. It's infectious in a good way!

Rule 6

Thinking about your failure brings your failure.

Concentrate on your success and watch it happen. Your mind will move in whatever direction you point it in. Make sure it's pointed toward where you want to go and not where you don't!

Rule 7

Feel whatever way you choose.

You control your feelings. You allow yourself to be upset, annoyed or frustrated. Only you control your feelings and no one else. Take back the power you give others and choose to feel strong, clear-minded and in control.

Rule 8

Communicate.

Listening and being understood are the keys to communication. People want to talk about themselves and they want to hear interesting things about you. No one wants to hear a sermon or hear a rant about your latest victory or great audition. Listen, observe and speak about mutually interesting subjects. Otherwise, you're a bore.

Rule 9

Freak out.

Bad audition, interview or meeting? Take ten minutes to beat yourself up. Blame yourself, be annoyed and frustrated. Then, learn your lesson and move on. Now that all your anger is gone, put your energy into the lessons learned and move forward once again.

Rule 10

Speak your mind, NOW.

People swallow their feelings and anger, they postpone what they really want to say, thinking, "I'll just wait till a good time." DON'T! Handle the situation now, before the situation changes. Have a problem? Be a diplomat and talk about it. Handling a minor situation now will prevent it from becoming a festering chasm of misunderstanding and resentment later.

Rule 11

Dive in.

Someone make you feel inadequate? A situation makes you feel uneasy? In a room with a big shot and feeling small? Don't overcompensate, navigate or fake your way through it, because you can't. Dive in and address the problem. Address your feelings and say, "I've got to be honest, I'm a big fan and I'm feeling a little intimidated right now." As soon as you own up to your feelings and the playing field is understood, you're both able to move ahead. Everyone wants to deal with someone who's truthful and honest, and not afraid to address their own insecurities.

Tip 12

Exploit yourself.

Find out what makes you different and exploit it. Each of you has a quality that makes you unique. Instead of trying to be what others are, exploit your uniqueness. It's the one "ace" you have that no one else possesses.

Rule 13

Don't accept the unacceptable.

Train people to treat you as you want to be treated. Being late is not acceptable, not returning calls is not acceptable and them not doing their job is not acceptable. Don't accept these behaviors from people.

Rule 14

Walk a mile in someone else's shoes.

Be someone else. Changing perspective is an amazing tip to see the world from another point of view. Assume a character and role and act it out for one day, then go out in the world as if it's all new to you. You'll be amazed at the new perspective you gain.

Rule 15

Say thank you.

Send an email from Hallmark, a card or a simple phone call. Don't underestimate the value of someone feeling appreciated and recognized for their efforts. It leaves a lasting impression when someone thanks you for meeting or helping them.