Peace of mind is something that we all crave for. We cannot achieve this
state without putting effort. After all, peace of mind is not something that can
be procured by spending money or by force. The mind needs to be balanced and in
equilibrium before it can reach that state. For
the mind to be balanced, we have several 'dos' and 'don'ts' to follow.
Given below are three 'don'ts' which go a long way to achieve that state. They
are described as the three Cs.
Criticizing: The first C is criticizing. It is one of the
most natural talents that we all have. J
Our minds seem to be tuned to find fault and spot blemishes. Many a times, we
see problems where none exist. It is as if our minds have the uncanny knack of
identifying a problem. At the same time, our tongues are eager to let others
know of our 'superiority' in being able to articulate those problems. When we
criticize thus, unnecessarily, we are unknowingly building resistance as well as
enemies. These lead to unwarranted arguments and attempts to prove a point.
Moreover, our minds which get clouded in
negativity refuse to let us reach the state of
equilibrium.
Complaining: The other C is similar to the first C and yet more damaging. Complaining is taking criticism to a higher level and almost results in condemning others. As long as it is constructive in nature and comes with intent to resolve and rectify, it is still bearable. What takes the cake is complaining which sounds like whining. It is other extreme of appreciating. It creates a huge negative whirlpool from which we are unable to extricate ourselves. We also carry the feelings of hurt and annoyance in our minds which prevents us from experiencing bliss.
Comparing: Another C which we seem
to be unable to avoid is the comparison bug. It is almost like a virus which is
in the air. Many of us are comparing all the time - ourselves with those around
us. It could be about anything - wealth, friends, physique, job, dogs,
appliances etc. It gives us momentary pleasure
when we see others in a worse situation than us and also give us sleepless
nights when we see others enjoying more than us. Comparison is a never
ending maze where people get lost and unable to recover their bearings. It is a method of inventing joy / sorrow out of
nothing.
These three Cs are best avoided and
conscious efforts taken to prevent ourselves from getting entrapped here. It
would be a good idea to ask one of our close spiritual friends to help us in the
process. If someone were to remind us each time we use these Cs, it will help us
tremendously in making course corrections. Over time, we might become habituated
to completely avoid them and progress towards the much coveted state of peace in
our minds.
superrrrrrB, JP :)
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