ARGUMENTS vs DISCUSSIONS

A Wonderful lesson for a Succesful Peaceful Life: :) :) 

There are some personalities that can be labeled as argumentative and that shows in their behavior and relationships. 

Arguments can be avoided and a lot of heartache prevented by being a little careful. 

The best way to win an argument is to avoid it. An argument is one thing you will never win.

If you win, you lose; if you lose, you lose.

If you win an argument but lose a good job, customer, friend or marriage, what kind of victory is it? Pretty empty.

Arguments result from inflated ego. Arguing is like fighting a losing battle. Even if one wins, the cost may be more than the victory is worth. Emotional battles leave a residual ill will even if you win. In an argument, both people are trying to have the last word. Argument is nothing more than a battle of egos.

If one wants to accomplish great things in life one has to practice maturity. Maturity means not getting entangled in unimportant things and petty arguments.

What are the differences between an Argument and a Discussion?

An argument throws heat; a discussion throws light.

One stems from ego and a closed mind whereas the other comes from an open mind. 

An argument is an exchange of ignorance whereas a discussion is an exchange of knowledge.

An argument is an expression of temper whereas a discussion is a lesson of logic.

An argument tries to prove who is right whereas a discussion tries to prove what is right.

Management Lesson from Big John 

One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops - a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.

At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on. Six feet eight,built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the driver and said, "Big John doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.

Did I mention that the driver was five feet three, thin, and basically meek? Well, he was. Naturally, he didn't argue with Big John, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened - Big John got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next.

This grated on the bus driver, who started losing sleep over the way Big John was taking advantage of him. Finally he could stand it no longer. He signed up for body building courses, karate, judo, and all that good stuff.

By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong; what's more, he felt really good about himself. So on the next Monday, when Big John once again got on the bus and said, "Big John doesn't pay!" 

The driver stood up, glared back at the passenger, and screamed, "And why not? "

With a surprised look on his face, Big John replied, "Big John has a bus pass ."

Management Lesson: "Be sure there is a problem in the first place before working hard to solve one."