10 SMARTER WAYS TO TALK TO YOUR MANAGER

 

THIS MAKES YOU DANGEROUSLY SMART

 

SMART THINKER VS FOOLISH DOER

 

SMART WISE

 

WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER

 

SMART THINKER VS FOOLISH DOER

 

HOW TO TAKE SMART NOTES

 

WORK SMARTER NOT HARDER

 

BECOME SMART

 

THE SMARTEST PERSONALITY TYPE

Which personality type is the smartest?

1. The good listener
2. The slow talker
3. The emotional genius
4. The book addict
5. The small circle lover
6. The calm, confident and kind-hearted.
7. The servant-leader
8. The writer, builder or artist.
9. The humorous speaker
10. The fast-thinker

SMART PEOPLE ARE SO QUIET - WHY?

• Because smart people are mentally strong and that helps them keep their cool and stay calm.
• They are also emotionally strong so they don’t easily get excited or frustrated during a conversation.
• Usually they are very good listeners and tend to listen more than they speak.
• Smart people will only speak if they believe something really needs to be said, and when they do, it will be slow and thoughtful.
• And last but not least, they know that sometimes silence is the best answer.

SMART WORK

 

HOW TO OUTSMART PEOPLE'S MIND GAMES PLAYED ON US

1. Gaslighting

making you question your sanity, memory, and perception by using denial, deception, misinformation, and contradiction How to outsmart : Let go and go on.

2. Negative levity

sarcastic or humorous criticisms that are intended to make you feel inadequate or uneasy. ways to trick Just be calm. By asking questions, make that person the center of attention while grinning.

3. Victimhood

Intended to take advantage of your goodwill, guilty conscience, and need for protection and nurture to profit yourself ways to trick Do not abandon or become emotionally invested in the relationship.

4. Claim ignorance

making excuses for actions or behaviors by acting naive Tips for outwitting Don't judge a book by its cover.

5. Projection

criticizing people for actions they take on their own ways to outsmart Removing yourself from the area and refusing to fall for the trap.

6. Guilt tripping

Reminding you in a passive-aggressive manner of the wrongdoing you committed will encourage them to atone for it. Tips for outwitting Trust your instincts, but respond with empathy.

7. Treatment in silence

Avoiding texts, calls, or inquiries causes you to feel unsure and begin to doubt yourself ways to trick until it blows over, ignore it.

8. Regular criticism

Continually ignoring, mocking, and marginalizing you to undermine your self-worth and elevate theirs Tips for outwitting Say thank you, then move on with your life.

CRITICAL THINGS SMART PEOPLE NEVER SAY

 
There are some things you simply never want to say at work.

These phrases carry special power: they have an uncanny ability to make you look bad even when the words are true.

Worst of all, there's no taking them back once they slip out.

I'm not talking about shocking slips of the tongue, off-color jokes, or politically incorrect faux pas. These aren't the only ways to make yourself look bad.

Often it's the subtle remarks—the ones that paint us as incompetent and unconfident—that do the most damage.

No matter how talented you are or what you've accomplished, there are certain phrases that instantly change the way people see you and can forever cast you in a negative light. These phrases are so loaded with negative implications that they undermine careers in short order.

"This is the way it's always been done." Technology-fueled change is happening so fast that even a six-month-old process could be outdated. Saying this is the way it's always been done not only makes you sound lazy and resistant to change, but it could make your boss wonder why you haven't tried to improve things on your own. If you really are doing things the way they've always been done, there's almost certainly a better way.

"It's not my fault." It's never a good idea to cast blame. Be accountable. If you had any role—no matter how small—in whatever went wrong, own it. If not, offer an objective, dispassionate explanation of what happened. Stick to the facts, and let your boss and colleagues draw their own conclusions about who's to blame. The moment you start pointing fingers is the moment people start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for their actions. This makes people nervous. Some will avoid working with you altogether, and others will strike first and blame you when something goes wrong.

"I can't." I can't is it's not my fault's twisted sister. People don't like to hear I can't because they think it means I won't. Saying I can't suggests that you're not willing to do what it takes to get the job done. If you really can't do something because you truly lack the necessary skills, you need to offer an alternative solution. Instead of saying what you can't do, say what you can do. For example, instead of saying "I can't stay late tonight," say "I can come in early tomorrow morning. Will that work?" Instead of "I can't run those numbers," say "I don't yet know how to run that type of analysis. Is there someone who can show me so that I can do it on my own next time?"

"It's not fair." Everyone knows that life isn't fair. Saying it's not fair suggests that you think life is supposed to be fair, which makes you look immature and naïve. If you don't want to make yourself look bad, you need to stick to the facts, stay constructive, and leave your interpretation out of it. For instance, you could say, "I noticed that you assigned Ann that big project I was hoping for. Would you mind telling me what went into that decision? I'd like to know why you thought I wasn't a good fit, so that I can work on improving those skills."

"That's not in my job description." This often sarcastic phrase makes you sound as though you're only willing to do the bare minimum required to keep getting a paycheck, which is a bad thing if you like job security. If your boss asks you to do something that you feel is inappropriate for your position (as opposed to morally or ethically inappropriate), the best move is to complete the task eagerly. Later, schedule a conversation with your boss to discuss your role in the company and whether your job description needs an update. This ensures that you avoid looking petty. It also enables you and your boss to develop a long-term understanding of what you should and shouldn't be doing.

"This may be a silly idea …/I'm going to ask a stupid question." These overly passive phrases instantly erode your credibility. Even if you follow these phrases with a great idea, they suggest that you lack confidence, which makes the people you're speaking to lose confidence in you. Don't be your own worst critic. If you're not confident in what you're saying, no one else will be either. And, if you really don't know something, say, "I don't have that information right now, but I'll find out and get right back to you."

"I'll try." Just like the word think, try sounds tentative and suggests that you lack confidence in your ability to execute the task. Take full ownership of your capabilities. If you're asked to do something, either commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don't say that you'll try because it sounds like you won't try all that hard.

"This will only take a minute." Saying that something only takes a minute undermines your skills and gives the impression that you rush through tasks. Unless you're literally going to complete the task in 60 seconds, feel free to say that it won't take long, but don't make it sound as though the task can be completed any sooner than it can actually be finished.

"I hate this job." The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person and brings down the morale of the group. Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.

"He's lazy/incompetent/a jerk." There is no upside to making a disparaging remark about a colleague. If your remark is accurate, everybody already knows it, so there's no need to point it out. If your remark is inaccurate, you're the one who ends up looking like a jerk. There will always be rude or incompetent people in any workplace, and chances are that everyone knows who they are. If you don't have the power to help them improve or to fire them, then you have nothing to gain by broadcasting their ineptitude. Announcing your colleague's incompetence comes across as an insecure attempt to make you look better. Your callousness will inevitably come back to haunt you in the form of your coworkers' negative opinions of you.

Bringing It All Together

These phrases have a tendency to sneak up on you, so you're going to have to catch yourself until you've solidified the habit of not saying them.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning co-author of the #1 bestselling book, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, and the cofounder of TalentSmart

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17. Value Learning

Smart people value the process of learning for learning’s sake. They do not just learn for a specific end---to get a certificate, degree, title, etc. They learn because it is intrinsically rewarding for them.

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It takes a lot of energy to be negative. You have to work at it. But smiling is painless. I’d rather spend my energy smiling. 

—Eric Davis (former MLB star and cancer survivor )

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15. Use Discernment

Smart people are able to discern (see clearly) other’s reasons and motives, so they selectively choose who and what to align themselves with. They surround themselves with only the highest quality people, programs, and places.

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14. Are Productive

Smart people get things done, through whatever organizational/time management system that works for them. They make the most of each day and take action on important life tasks each and everyday.

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13. Write and List Things on Paper

Smart people have a well-developed life strategy that includes a written life vision/mission, purpose, and goals statement. They also write lists---one for “have to’s” and one for “want to’s.”

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12. Trust Themselves

Smart people believe and trust themselves first and foremost. They don’t have to check with others to make decisions, they instinctively know what is right for them and they go for it!